HOW TO BE MORE EVIL

a guide for girls who are suffering from male fatigue.

We need to stop being afraid of hurting men’s feelings: apologizing too much, shrinking our edges, cleaning up messes we didn’t make. Men, on the other hand, ghost without guilt, “forget” to text back, flirt with your friend in front of you, and sleep like babies afterward. And yet, we’re the ones lying awake, editing a breakup text so it doesn’t sting too much. If equality means anything, it has to include emotional equality. His pride is not more valuable than your peace. You’re not cruel for being direct, or for saying no. You’re just refusing to donate free therapy hours to someone who wouldn’t hesitate to make you cry.

So what does it mean to be an evil girl? It means refusing to cushion every truth. It means not apologizing when you haven’t done anything wrong. It’s walking away without the paragraph explanation. It’s leaving him on read when you don’t feel like talking, because he would do the same to you without blinking. The evil girl mindset is not cruelty, it’s conservation. Of time, of energy, of self-respect. It’s giving men the same casual disregard they’ve practiced on us for centuries. Not because you don’t care, but because you’ve stopped caring more. To be evil is to be economical. It’s to know that every ounce of attention you give is currency, and you don’t hand it out for free. It’s showing up charming and magnetic, but never desperate. It’s rejecting the idea that your softness is owed to anyone.

Below are a few practices for embracing the evil girl mindset. Try them, and you’ll notice something: disappointment shrinks. Because the real power lies in decentering men—not cutting them off entirely, but refusing to let them dictate your mood. Dating can be fun, but the second male attention becomes your barometer, your peace is gone. The evil girl mindset is about pulling that power back. It’s not about cruelty for cruelty’s sake, it’s about refusing to play the role of caretaker, therapist, or ego balm. It’s about making men orbit you, not the other way around.

Below are the rules. Use them carefully. They work.

STOP FEELING GUILTY

You don’t owe anyone an explanation for why you’re not interested. You don’t owe a second date because you felt bad, or because you flirted over text once when you were bored. Men ghost women daily without losing a minute of sleep. If you prefer, end it with clarity and finality: “I’m not there romantically, all the best.” That’s not rude, it’s honest. You don’t need to cushion the truth to protect his ego. Your peace is worth more than his feelings.